Most romantic relationships end at some point.The trick is to learn something from the experience and then springboard into a new life.
Quick Note: most of the coaching I do centers on communication, leadership, and career. However, in the past I held most relationship workshops and as clients find they can trust me they open up with this area of life too. Here is something I put together in an effort to encourage and motivate you in this more personal area.
Each relationship is a learning experience, and the information learned can be used to reinvent yourself. It’s hard when a relationship ends, but you have the opportunity to write a new chapter in your life. What will you decide to do with this opportunity?
Take your life to a new level after the end of your relationship:
1. Clean house. Take all of those photographs, love letters, mementos, gifts, and so on and pitch them in the trash. If you’re tempted to keep them for sentimental reasons, consider your ex-partner from three relationships ago. Do you still have anything remaining from that relationship?
● If you just can’t let go of those items yet, put them all in a box and put the box in the basement or garage. You can throw them away another day. Someday, you’ll be surprised that you ever wanted to keep any of it.
2. Join a gym. Make some positive changes to your body. Exercise will uplift your mood too.Lift weights, go running, join a yoga studio, or play tennis. The activity doesn’t matter as long as you get some exercise and move onward and upward.
3. Start at least one new activity. There are plenty of things you’d like to do but haven’t yet. It’s time to start doing one of them. Join a softball team or a dance studio. It doesn’t matter what the activity is, as long as you like it. Hopefully, it will be an activity that includes other people.
4. Evaluate your relationship. Take a short period of time and examine your recently failed relationship. There’s no point in repeating mistakes in the future. Figure out what went wrong and how you can avoid a similar fate.Learn from your mistakes and improve your understanding of relationships.
5. Buy some new clothes. Change things up a little bit. Get a fresh start by updating your wardrobe. You’ll feel better. It’s like a new beginning that all the world can see.
6. Reconnect with old friends. When in a romantic relationship, other relationships can suffer. It’s time to reconnect with old friends and create some new memories. Make it a point to contact everyone you’ve lost touch with. Maybe a group dinner is in order.
7. Learn something new. It’s fulfilling to grow in a meaningful way.Pick something that interests you and develop yourself. You might want to learn how to play the piano, paint, or skydive. Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn how to ballroom dance. Make it happen.
8. Take a trip. Get away by yourself or with a friend and explore someplace new. It can be a great start to a new life. Where would you like to go? Think outside the box and be daring. Go get your passport if you don’t already have one. The world is your oyster.
9. Spend casual time with a variety of people, instead of focusing all of your energy on one person. Try dating people you normally wouldn’t. Maybe you’ve just been dating the wrong people in the past. Keep it fun and simple.
Make the most of your newfound freedom and take some time to make a few modifications to yourself and your life. Try some new activities and reach out to your old friends. Your life might just become the best it’s ever been. You won’t know until you try!
– Mike Acker
President of ADVANCE